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Say NO MORE to sexual assault in the military


Lieutenant Elle Helmer at the Vietnam War Memorial, US Marine Corps, from THE INVISIBLE WAR, a Cinedigm/Docurama Films release. 

See The Invisible War for free at Kean University’s Little Theater (inside the University Center) at 6:30 p.m. on November 11. This program is co-sponsored by Kean University and Union County College. Questions can be directed to armstrong (at) ucc (do) edu



My dog understands the word “No,” so how are you going to tell me teenage boys don’t know the difference between rape and consent?

Do we support equality enough to acknowledge that boys are at least as intelligent as dogs?

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In other words: anyone who buys lame excuses for rape lives in fantasy land.

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What If We Responded to Sexual Assault by Limiting Men’s Freedom Like We Limit Women’s?


(Quite possibly the greatest thing you’ll read all day)

Calls for Men to Be Blindfolded in Public
In response to claims that men are unable to restrain themselves from committing rape if they see women in skimpy clothing, members of law enforcement agencies around the country have called for men to blindfold themselves when they are in places where they might encounter a female wearing a tank top or a short skirt.

“For years, we have been told that men don’t understand how to respond to the sight of a woman wearing, say, gym clothes – that as far as they are concerned, if they can see the outline of her body, then that’s an invitation to sex that they are simply unable to refuse,” said one police chief. “If that’s true, then we have no choice. We want women to be safe, and there is apparently no way for some men to reasonably restrain their own behavior once they catch a glimpse of cleavage, so all men will have to cover their eyes while working out, going to bars or clubs, or relaxing at the beach.”

Popular radio “shock jocks” Skeezer and the Gooch have gone even further, arguing that men should be blindfolded at all times while in public, on the grounds that “it’s not just skimpy outfits, some dudes get turned on by random stuff like women wearing athletic jerseys and sneakers,” making situation-specific blindfolding insufficient to preserve women’s safety.

Unwise to Allow Men to Go Out Alone at Night?
A local coalition of religious leaders, concerned about recent studies showing that an average of 6% of men will commit a sexual assault during their lifetime, and that nearly all sexual assaults are committed by men on their own or in groups, are urging parents not to let their sons go out at night unless they are accompanied by a mother, sister, or trusted female friend.

Mens’ groups have responded with concern, pointing out that this may leave some men unable to complete the tasks of daily life, such as going to school, working, or socializing.

In response, the religious leaders said that they “understand that this may be an inconvenience for some men,” but that “the minor difficulties this imposes on men are nothing when compared to the lifelong horror sexual assaults cause their victims.” “Really,” said the organization’s leader, “almost any limitation on men’s freedom is better than the risk that they might sexually assault someone. That’s just common sense.”

Time to Admit That Some Jobs May Just Be Too Dangerous for Men?
Recent allegations that Jimmy Savile raped numerous children while working as a television presenter for the BBC, have led to widespread calls for television stations to avoid allowing men to do similar jobs.

“We know that not all men are rapists, and that some men can probably be trusted to present tv shows safely,” said the director of Televisions Within Borders, a professional group that promotes the welfare of TV hosts and the people they cover. “However, now we know that some men can’t. And why take the risk? There are plenty of qualified women who can do this job instead.”

Voices from the blogosphere agree. “You wouldn’t send a cocaine addict to do a Good Morning America segment about a big pile of cocaine,” said a blogger who calls himself “UltimateMindz.” “Letting men be TV presenters is basically the same thing.” That post has since been shared more than 180 times on twitter, and has garnered nearly 2000 Facebook “likes.”

Supporters of this movement point to the fact that there has not been a single recorded case of a football coach raping a child since all college football coaching staff were replaced by women after last year’s Penn State abuse scandal.

Deans of 25 prominent journalism schools have taken a more moderate position, however, urging television programs to do more segments on bodybuilders and military contractors – subjects who are seen as safe for male presenters to interact with because their physical strength leaves them less vulnerable to assault. That way, the deans argue in a widely-circulated letter, male presenters may be able to remain in their jobs, albeit in a role with less visibility and almost no opportunity for advancement.

(If you’re wondering where this post came from, see, e.g., here, here, here, and here.)

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Trust me when I say that I really understand how icky and unpleasant rape and sexual assault are, and I think it would be horrible if those terms became words we all just casually tossed around. The problem with not using them because they are taboo is we have reached a point where too many of us have forgotten what they mean.

Please, please, please talk to your children about ways to set healthy boundaries and stay safe. Do something that helps you feel safe. Talk to your friends, talk to family, talk to your doctor, talk to as many people as you can to help make it crystal clear that sexual assault is never acceptable. Victim-blaming is so ingrained in our culture, it is going to take everyone working together to help reverse this shame and blame cycle that oppresses all of us.

So have a friendly conversation, engage in acts of random kindness, and promote peace and respect over violence. Everyone deserves a happy childhood and a sense of safety.


Union County College will be hosting a vigil for Denim Day on Wednesday, April 24 at the Cranford Campus. Directions and the address are available on the website. This event is free and open to the public. Parking is available on campus. Please stop at the Public Safety Booth at the Springfield Ave. entrance if you are not a student, faculty or staff member with a valid parking permit. The officer will provide you with a temporary pass and/or instructions.

We will start the vigil around 6 p.m.

We are also hosting a Clothesline Project in the commons of the Cranford campus that day from 1:30 to 3:30. Anyone who wants to join us for that is welcome. Questions can be sent to Amy.


"Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism."

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It’s April, which means Sexual Assault Awareness Month, also known as SAAM

Sexual assault isn’t something that happens just to a certain type of people, it’s not just young white females on their way home from a party, as it’s often portrayed by the media. It’s people of every age, skintone and sex, and when it happens it’s devastating.

This is a sisterhood and brotherhood we rather not be a part of, and we don’t want any new members.

There’s so many little things each and every one of us can do to try and prevent any and every form of sexual assult. Like if you’re out drinking and you see someone get harassed, tell a bouncer or one of the bartenders.

Stop Street Harassment put together a nice list of 10 Ways to Mark Sexual Assault Awareness Month

If you’re currently, or have ever been a victim of sexual assault, there’s luckily a ton of helpful sites online, or even groups in your community.

Like RAINN Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, which has both a online hotline and phone line!
And Project Unbreakable, which helps victims speak up and let you know that you’re not alone in your pain.

Remember that you’re worth so much more that you were made to feel, and that one day it’ll get easier to breathe again!

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